Here’s another email

from the Dating Guru’s Mailbag

“Dear James,

I hope you’ll be able to help me. Why do women only see me a friend?  I’ve got so many female friends but can never seem to get  a girlfriend.  What am I doing wrong?  S”

Hi S

Thank you for your email.

Start by looking at the positives.  Women obviously feel comfortable and safe with you, so that’s a wonderful place to start with.  They clearly enjoy spending time with you and want to be part of your life.   The trouble is that you treating potential matches like friends rather that partners.  Instead, you should take control and not be so nice.  Greet them with a kiss and take them to “date place” like restaurants rather than going for chats and coffee.  Don’t spend your time listening to their problems but talk about future plans and flirt like mad.

It might be worth using your female friends to your advantage.  Ask them to help with your wardrobe and to fix you up with their own friends.   Go out with the single ones and use each other as a wing man or wing woman.  If another girl sees you with someone then this pretty much makes them know you are worthy and interesting!

If you have your own dating problem or question then you can ask our Dating Guru for help.  Email  info@singlesolution.com    The best questions will get answered ( anonymously!)  in this blog.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

What’s the worst thing

you can put in a dating profile?

There are three things you should never ever say in your dating profile.  I see them time and again and they can completely ruin your chances.  Your profile is your opportunity to sell yourself so you must make it good.

1) Tell you Later / Ask Me/ I’ll fill this in later

So you can’t be bothered to write anything ?   This looks like you are lazy with no imagination.  It’s better to have a completely blank profile than do this.  If you must write “Ask Me” then you could try something along the lines of  “Ask me about the time I went to Peru. It’s a great story!”

2) I love to laugh/ listening to music / reading etc

Why is this bad?  Well who doesn’t like laughing or listening to music?  These sort of statements are much too general.  If you’ve just heard a great joke or read a fantastic book then talk about it in your profile instead.  It could be a really good conversation starter.

3) No Time Wasters please

I’ve said this before but I still see people writing it each and every day!   You really shouldn’t put this as it makes you look like a petty, negative person.  Also, if they are a timewaster it’s not exactly going to put them off anyway is it?  If you have a few things you are looking for then write about them in a positive way instead.  Perhaps you can write that you are seeking a happy, relationship minded person or someone in your area.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru – Dating Coach and Dating Expert

www.singlesolution.com

Are free dating sites

as good as paid ones?

Online dating sites are a wonderful way to meet new people and get a date. The taboo of talking to someone on the Internet has virtually gone now,  partly due to the success of
social media sites like Facebook.

It’s easy to create a profile on a dating site and start getting interest from matches quickly, without even leaving your bedroom.  There are some great sites out there so you may be tempted to try a free one.

Online Dating can be expensive, so free sites can be a good introduction if you can’t afford this.  However, they are more suited to casual hook ups and flirting than serious relationships. If you are over the age of 21 then you’ll probably be wasting your time even setting up a profile. Free dating sites sites are not monitored for fake profiles and there are many time wasters on there.

These types of websites are never as “free” as they make out.  While you can search and contact members, you still need to upgrade and pay for some of the more useful services.

I would  always advise that if you are looking for a long term relationship then you are better off paying for a proper online dating site.  You know the other person is serious about dating if they have also paid.  They attract much more professionals members and therefore you’ll meet more suitable people.

A good, reputable online dating site such as www.singlesolution.com has staff who are always available to help you.  They will filter out fake profiles and ensure that the standard of members is kept as high possible.  You can also get discounts on a range or singles events too.

You really do get what you pay for in life.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Here is our feedback

that we had from June

We had another fantastic month.

Here us just a small selection of the emails that we received:

“I thought it was excellently organised” FH

“Good balance of men/women” GP

“Enjoyable eve meeting new people. Nice to meet familiar faces and new ones!” EB

“Relaxed, nice people, easy venue” RB

“The profiles are generally well laid out and easy to use” OB

“I met someone – thanks!  SB

Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Here is another

profile review for you

Here’s a look at her current profile:

Thank you for your request.   I can see that you are quite far away in the Isle of Wight, so you may find there aren’t as any members as in busier places like London.

However, your profile is very friendly and you have a lovely main photo.   However, there are some improvements you could make.

Here are a few suggestions that may help:

1) Do you have any more photos?  Just one isn’t really enough.  Perhaps try a full body shot or one of you doing an activity.

2) The main profile text is fine but there are a few errors in it.   I.e  it should say I am someone with an honest, sincere heart  and  I’m looking for a gentleman.

3)Ask a question or end with an invitation.  It will help men looking at it find a reason to get in touch with you.

4) You don’t seem to have contacted anyone yet?  Online Dating is competitive so you must contact anyone that you like the look of, with a reply paid credit. That way they can read and respond.  If you don’t email anyone then you will just be wasting your time.

5) Write a little more about what makes you special and be more specific. What sort of things do you enjoy cooking for example?

I hope this helps,

James

If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to info@singlesolution.com We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – Dating Coach