When you arrive at an event

you must wear a name badge

When you arrive at one of our singles events you’ll be given a sticker with your user name written on it.    This sticker may end up being your secret weapon so it’s VITAL that you do actually wear it.

By wear it, I mean put it in a visible place that everyone can see.  Not ( as some people do) on your knee, handbag, under a coat,  on your hip and certainly not screwed up in your pocket.

We give you a name badge so we can identify you if necessary.  Perhaps we have someone who would like to meet you or need to find you for your speed dating spot.  As well as this, it’s proof that you’ve been signed in and have paid for the event.  If you aren’t wearing one they you may be prevented from entering if you go outside at all.

There’s another great reason why you should wear the name badge.  Your Mr or Miss Right could be at the event and longing to come over and say hello.  However, they can see you are busy talking to someone else so don’t get the chance to come over.  If they can see your name badge then they have the option to send you a message the next day, free of charge on the site.  If they can’t find you then you’ll just be ships that pass in the night.

So please wear your name badge.  Thank you!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Here’s another email

from the Dating Guru’s Mailbag

“Dear James,

I’ve been seeing someone for seven months now and things are going really well.  However, I’ve recently found out that she has a secret box at the bottom of her wardrobe. In this box she keeps photos and letters from old boyfriends.  I know she still looks through this box as she told me.  Should I be worried?  Does she wish she was still with one of them and not me?  H”

Hi H,

Thank you for your message. Firstly, you may be surprised to here but MOST women have a secret box or photo album under the bed or tucked away in a wardrobe.  In fact, many men have one too.  It’s just a collection of memories that we can look back on from time to time.  She’s not looking back wishing that she was still with these various guys, but using them to recall positive emotions.  The same could be true of a favourite book, film or piece or art.

If you end up in a long term relationship with her then there will come a time when these items don’t matter anymore.  She’ll have years of new memories, emotions and experiences that you’ve shared together than will make her forget about the past.

The most important thing is not to make a big deal about this and start getting  jealous or paranoid.  She’s open about this box so she’s not hiding anything from you.  Keep in mind that she is with you because she wants to be. Accept that and make sure you have an amazing journey together……..and take lots of photos!

If you have your own dating problem or question then you can ask our Dating Guru for help.  Email  info@singlesolution.com    The best questions will get answered ( anonymously!)  in this blog.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Here are some of our

favourite March Feedback’s.

We had another very busy month in March.  We love to hear your success stories and get emails every day saying how much you are enjoying the site.

Here are just a few of the latest.

“Very good. Excellent parties :)” MM

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single Feed back : Great ” DJ

“It’s a great site! ” SA

” Good site, and enjoyable events, just want a break and may come back later in the year. ” CD

“It’s very good “  SF

” I think they are good and the events are a success ” CA

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Super ” CC

“Good site, good functions ” BV

If you have your own please do share it with us: info@singlesolution.com

Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Is the office a good place

to meet a new partner?

Before the Internet, the main way we met other people was through our work.  But now, as we work longer and longer hours in more remote locations it can be much more difficult.  Despite this, it can still be an excellent way to get a date.

If you spend a lot of time with a small number of people then you will get attached to some of them.  It’s human nature and how we bond for survival.

You do need to be very careful that you don’t cross boundaries.  Get to know someone as a friend first and then ask them to meet up with for a coffee/drink/meal outside work.  If they are interested they’ll accept but if not then don’t keep endlessly asking.

If things do work out for you then I’d advise you to keep it as low key as possible during office hours.  You don’t want to make your colleagues feel uncomfortable or embarrassed by your behaviour so think about how they might feel.

You should also make sure that you don’t bring any problems to work with you.  It’s not the time for heated arguments or sulking.   Keep in mind that the relationship doesn’t last the you’ll be still be stuck together in close proximity, so end things on a happy friendly note if need be.

Several studies have shown that between 30 and 50 % of all office romances do indeed end up in marriage.  So they definitely can work.

I’d like to hear your thoughts on this subject.  Have you ever dated someone you worked with and how did things work out for you?
Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru