Here is another question

answered by our dating expert

“Dear James.  I’ve got a strange online dating problem that I need your help with.  I’m literally having too many decent men contact me!  I’m finding it really difficult to choose which ones to meet up with.  I can’t believe how much success I’m having…..but the downside is that it’s stopping me giving them a chance. As I know there are plenty more waiting to meet me, I’m not trying hard enough on dates and always thinking about the next people. What can I do about this?   M”

Hi M,

Thank you for your message.  First of all, that’s great news that you having such great luck on the site.  You must have a lovely photo and profile.   The funny thing is that online dating can be very addictive when things are going well.   Each email you get can brighten your day a little and give you a little ego boost.    There’s nothing wrong with that, but sometimes you do need to take a step back so you can get the bigger picture.   So here is my advice for you:

1) Stop all new contact and don’t engage with anyone new.  Instead, focus on the conversations that you’ve already started.

2) Make sure you are only meeting the men you are really interested in.  If you have the option, you should only be seeing the ones you see a future with.  Otherwise you may end up wasting people’s time without meaning too.

3) If you are a little overwhelmed, take a break for a week or so.  Don’t contact anyone at all.   Instead, go and see some of your friends and catch up with them.   Take time to do the things you normally enjoy so you will remember that you have a normal life away from dating.

4) Ride the wave.   As long as you are enjoying yourself and not leading people on, there is nothing wrong with having some fun.   Going out on lots of dates is a GOOD thing so there’s no reason not to, as long as you know what your desired end result is.

I hope these help you and that you find the one person you are looking for.

If you have your own dating dilemma or problem that you’d like my dating expertise with, you can email me at  info@singlesolution.com   I will choose the best ones and answer them here in the blog.

Happy dating!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

We’ve like to wish all our members a very

Happy Christmas

Have a lovely time and we hope you get everything you asked for!
Best Wishes,
James and Paul

www.singlesolution.com

The Christmas party season is here

and with it comes opportunity!

Office parties are a great time for a spot of romance.  The drinks are flowing and everything is a little more relaxed and in the mood for fun and excitement.   However, there are certain rules that you need to keep in mind if you don’t want to have to resign the next morning.

1) Limit your alcohol.  It’s too easy to drink too much and then lose your inhibitions with someone you might never have otherwise been interested in.

2) Be careful.

3) Don’t involve anyone else.   Keep secrets.

4)

5) Stick to our singles events!  They are a much better way to meet new partners.  Everyone is single, in a fun mood and looking to meet someone.  There are no repercussions if things don’t work out.

Here are some of our

feedback  from November

Here us just a small selection of the feedback emails that we received:

“Well run events.” AP

“Just want to say a big Thank you for a very lovely and great party and event.
The atmosphere throughout the evening was great and positive. I met Lots of interesting and friendly people.
The age group was also very good. The evening was simply fabulous……. ” RB

“Its a good company, the parties are great” RP

“Relaxed atmosphere” AF

“ I enjoy the events” AP

If you have your success story that you’d like to share, please email us at info@singlesolution.com

Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Here’s another email

from the Dating Guru’s Mailbag

“Dear James,

I found an amazing girl online and I know we’d be perfect for each other.  However, she’s not logged in to the site for over three months!  I did some research based on her profile text and I’ve managed to find out exactly where she works and what her full (unusual) name is.  I’m tempted to turn up at her work with some flowers…but not sure that’s the best course of action.  What should I do to let her know I exist?   P”

Hi P

Thank you for your email.

If you have your own dating problem or question then you can ask our Dating Guru for help.  Email  info@singlesolution.com    The best questions will get answered ( anonymously!)  in this blog.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Here are some of our

feedbacks from October

Here us just a small selection of the feedback emails that we received:

“Great event!” SB

“Met my boyfriend on Single Solutions 40 minutes after putting up my profile…and we are happily together almost two years later. So thanks :-)” FF

“Had been to your event once that was enjoyable .”  LW

“Peter and I met at one of your November events in 2004 — we are closing in on
our 9th anniversary! (We also got married in May 2009.) I’m always
talking up Single Solution.” CC

“Very good enjoyed the parties” OB

If you have your success story that you’d like to share, please email us at info@singlesolution.com

Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Here is another question for our

Dating Guru

“Dear James,  I’ve managed to line up a date from your website.  We are meeting for dinner at the weekend and I’m very excited!  Do you have any tips for me about how to act and what I need to wear?   I don’t want to blow my chances with her before I even begin.   Tim”

Hi Tim,

Many thanks for your email and it’s very cool you’ve got a date.

My advice to you would be to treat is a bit of fun and try to enjoy every moment. Wear something that you feel comfortable and attractive in, ask lots of questions…..avoiding any negative subjects such as talking about past relationships etc. Smile as much as you can and show an interest.

Make sure you arrive on time.  In fact, get there a bit early to make sure you get a good table and in the best possible position.  She might feel awkward if you are sat near a window or anywhere “on display” where others can see you.   Make her feel welcome as soon as you see her too.  She’ll be just as nervous as you are so you absolutely should put her at ease.

Above all, treat it as an experiment and don’t worry about anything. It will probably take a few dates with different people until you have a bit more of an idea what to do /say.  Oh and try and keep the first date short in case you don’t get on.  So skip the start or dessert.

If you like her, you can arrange to see her for a longer date next time . I’d advise you to try and actually arrange this while you are together.  I hope all goes well for you!

If you have your own question for our dating expert please email    info@singlesolution.com      The best problems will be answered ( anonymously!) in the blog.

Here are some of our

feedbacks from September

Here us just a small selection of the feedback emails that we received:

“My husband and I met through your website in 2011 and are now married and had a baby in May this year”  SS

“You got a pretty good crowd of people. I liked the idea of the chocolate fountain” BB

“Good: mix of ages, location, venue. Staff helpful”  AZ

“The event was good and the venue was much better than others ” KM

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good” AF

If you have your success story that you’d like to share, please email us at info@singlesolution.com

Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Here’s another email

from the Dating Guru’s Mailbag

“Dear James.  I’m working on a project at work with a lovely lady.  We’ve fallen for each other but if we got found out then we’d lose our jobs.  However, at Christmas her contract is up so we’ve agreed to keep things as friends until then. It’s driving me mad – what can I do?”!

If you have your own dating problem or question then you can ask our Dating Guru for help.  Email  info@singlesolution.com    The best questions will get answered ( anonymously!)  in this blog.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Here’s another happy couple

Could you be next?

We received a lovely email and photograph from two former members this week.  It’s great  for our members to read these as it shows that our site really does work.

So here is a quote from Stephen and Silvia:

“My husband and I met through your website in 2011 and are now married and had a baby in May this year. No need for other dating sites as who cares what book he reads as all what matters is chemistry and some common ground :)”

Congratulations to you both!

If you have your own success story we’d love to hear it.  If you send us a photo too then we’ll send you some vouchers to help you celebrate.

Happy dating!

James and Paul

www.singlesolution.com