January 8th, 2014
Here is another question
answered by our dating expert
“Dear James. I’ve got a strange online dating problem that I need your help with. I’m literally having too many decent men contact me! I’m finding it really difficult to choose which ones to meet up with. I can’t believe how much success I’m having…..but the downside is that it’s stopping me giving them a chance. As I know there are plenty more waiting to meet me, I’m not trying hard enough on dates and always thinking about the next people. What can I do about this? M”
Thank you for your message. First of all, that’s great news that you having such great luck on the site. You must have a lovely photo and profile. The funny thing is that online dating can be very addictive when things are going well. Each email you get can brighten your day a little and give you a little ego boost. There’s nothing wrong with that, but sometimes you do need to take a step back so you can get the bigger picture. So here is my advice for you:
1) Stop all new contact and don’t engage with anyone new. Instead, focus on the conversations that you’ve already started.
2) Make sure you are only meeting the men you are really interested in. If you have the option, you should only be seeing the ones you see a future with. Otherwise you may end up wasting people’s time without meaning too.
3) If you are a little overwhelmed, take a break for a week or so. Don’t contact anyone at all. Instead, go and see some of your friends and catch up with them. Take time to do the things you normally enjoy so you will remember that you have a normal life away from dating.
4) Ride the wave. As long as you are enjoying yourself and not leading people on, there is nothing wrong with having some fun. Going out on lots of dates is a GOOD thing so there’s no reason not to, as long as you know what your desired end result is.
I hope these help you and that you find the one person you are looking for.
If you have your own dating dilemma or problem that you’d like my dating expertise with, you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org I will choose the best ones and answer them here in the blog.
The Dating Guru